The most critical points in a relationship with a woman is knowing when to kiss her!

        I found that out the hard way, not knowing when a woman was ready for a kiss and losing her for ever because I missed the opportunity.  I used to stand there, looking at her and wondering “should I kiss her now? lips really look nice.” But I had no idea of what to do next.

Here’s how I do it now:

•         Kissing a woman is the decision point where you get to see how interested you both are in each other and where you make your intentions for her crystal clear. Until the kiss, you could be having fun together, but she might see you as just another friend.

•         When I’m on a date with a woman, and we’re at the end of the date, we will be both standing at her house door/car, now it’s time to her notice body language.

•         Do you remember the movie “Hitch”? There is a scene in the movie where he teaches the guy how to kiss a girl and he tells him to watch for the pause (If you didn’t, I recommend you watch it, there are some good ideas in that movie even though I think the underlying concept is wrong but that’s a different discussion…). The pause I’m talking about is this – if you want to just drive away in your car, you would just open the door, get in and drive right? But if there is a “kiss window”, where the girl is hoping to get kissed, she will pause, even for a slight moment before she gets into the car. You should be looking for that pause. 

At this point I usually do the following:

•         First, I move into “her space”. This is the personal space around her that would not be invaded during normal day to day interactions (again, I say, “move into her space” not “get in her face” this should all be done very slowly and very calmly).

•         Second, since there is a pause, I take my hand and slightly touch her hair, and brush it away from her face. If she is physically attracted to you, this shouldn’t be an issue, and if it is (she flinches or you get a negative vibe) then you probably need to build more attraction before you go for the kiss.

•         Third, I then say something like “your hair is really beautiful/soft/nice” and slowly caress it while very lightly touching her cheek with the tips of my fingers. 

•         She should be getting chills from this and in some cases you can actually see her getting excited by this. I then move from caressing her hair to caressing her face. Then I move in for a kiss.